This year has been quite a change for me and I thought I would share it with everyone. I have made some major discoveries about myself, my needs, my wants and my desires. I have had two major surgeries and my family is closer than ever.
It started 14 months ago with the loss of my job, I loved my job! My weight was interfering with my ability to perform my job correctly and do it well. When you travel up to 70% and your behind can't fit into the airline seats, it is going to have an impact. I remember boarding flights, with a bead of sweat rolling down my forehead, and the shear look of terror on fellow passengers faces that would form. You know that look! It's the, "Oh god, please tell me your in another isle!" look! The worst is when you are seated with two large men and they where hoping for some small petite tiny woman to sit with.......NOT!
The catalyst for me was when I had an allergic reaction to a medication the doctor put me on for high cholesterol that caused fluid retention and edema. The fluid appeared to not only give me the worst case of cankles I had ever had, but it also caused fluid to retain on my lungs and I couldn't walk for any amount of distance without feeling like I was in cardiac arrest. Work had sent me to one of the most beautiful places I had ever visited in Vancouver, BC and my supervisor and I went whale watching. It was breathtaking in more ways than one! I wouldn't have missed the experience for anything.
I was laid off shortly after the trip, so I quickly sprang into action. I had been considering a gastric bypass for 10 years and had previously seen my doctors office give a informational speech 10 years ago. I quickly reserved myself a seat for the next round of detailed informational segments on the how the procedure(s) is performed and how to get the ball rolling.
Within weeks we had gotten permission from the insurance company to proceed and authorization was obtained for an Roux-en-Y Procedure (http://www.rnygastricbypass.com/). The stomach is reduced to handling the capacity of a golf ball and approximately 18 inches of small intestine is removed to interfere with absorption of food and calories during regular calorie consumption. I was very excited and thought that this was the best thing that had ever happened to me.
I was a smoker since I was 15. Not just a smoker, a Marlboro smoker, Reds to be exact. I was getting chest colds every winter that made me sound like I was dying. I kept talking about wanting to quit, but never did it. But, the day the doctor said, "Oh, you have to quit or I won't perform the surgery!" A little piece in me died. I thought, "How am I ever gonna do this?" I cut down each week, but confessions are good for the soul.... right???? I smoked up to the day of the surgery. And I have never smoked again! Smoking and RNY is serious business. Everything I read says that it leads to ulcers and we have enough tummy issues without this too. I am almost 10 months without a cigarette and I still crave them sometimes, but I like not smelling! My husband still smokes and he stinks! Flat out smells! And I can't stand the smell! How do you go 15+ years of smoking and not realize how bad you smell, I don't know, but I did.
My tummy is super sensitive to this day. In the months following the surgery, they recommend you get 100 grams of protein in your diet a day. I am 10 months out and I get 60 grams a day now. I have also become a vegetarian. I drink my protein and eat my meals in the form of mostly organic vegetables. I have a terrible time digesting meat and have chosen to leave it out of my meals for that reason.
After losing 100 pounds, I had a bout with my gallbladder and had to have it removed. It is my understanding that with large weight loss, it is fairly common to have to have your gallbladder removed. That was a mild setback. I took me about 1.5 months to get back on my feet.
One thing I didn't count on was to have so much time out, now one year later, I am beginning my job search vigorously. One thing that this new lifestyle has given me is a new perspective on life, I look at the positives now and not the negatives.
I have been on an adventure for the last year. An adventure of self discovery, when you have the surgery and start to lose the weight, you go through stages, well I did. The biggest hurdle for me was realizing that my perceptions of myself where not always real. When I was obese I never saw how big I really was when I looked in the mirror and now that I have lost the weight, I don't see my real size in the mirror still. I struggle with my perception of myself and work on this everyday. It is an internal struggle that I have heard other weight loss gastric bypass patients speak of, as well.
The most profound realization for me was the day it dawned on my that I had a food addiction. The day I realized that they had taken my ability to stuff my feelings away and I no longer could eat my way through my emotions. What an awakening! The compounding of such rapid weight loss, the inability to use my old coping mechanisms and the rapid changes in my life, left me with no choice but to seek professional help. It was the best choice, I had ever made. I have made positive steps in the right direction to have a more positive mindset and have a more spiritual mind frame.
But, through it all, I have to say that my family has been wonderful. I must of drove them nuts. In the beginning with the pre-op diet, when everything in the house had to be removed or I would of eaten it! During the surgery, when I later found out that they we're sneaking out to McDonald's and not telling me and now when they just eat their snacks in front of me with glee.....LOL I do love them and appreciate all the support they gave me! My hubby brags that I am "half of the woman he married"! And he means that literally! I love them with all my healthy heart!
Here is to a new me, a new healthy start and to a new lease on life in more than one sense of the word!!!